Fear of my Life

Fear is a feeling that every person experiences at some point in life. We all fear something—sometimes the unknown, sometimes the familiar. We fear losing our loved ones, losing our health, financial instability, darkness, exams, and even the thought of how we appear to others. The fear of lacking confidence, the fear of raising children alone, fear of divorce, and fear of not getting a job—these fears seep into every small and large aspect of our lives.

Have you ever thought about how fear works in our lives? Why do we sometimes hold back from fulfilling our biggest dreams because we're afraid of failure? Or why do we panic when alone in the dark, even though it’s just a psychological fear?

The existence of fear resides deep within our minds, and understanding it and confronting it is the key to our growth. When we run from our fears, they grow stronger. But when we face them, we can overcome them.

What is Fear?

Fear is a natural response, connected to our brain’s "fight or flight" mechanism. Whenever our brain senses danger, it alerts us. This triggers hormonal changes in the body that help us make decisions based on the situation.

Often, fear is more a product of our imagination than an actual danger. We feel something that might not even be real. That’s why it’s important to recognize our fears and understand whether they are real or just a creation of our mind.

I always had big dreams—good job, deep relationships, and a desire for self-growth. But there was one thing in my life that was holding me back—fear.

Whenever I faced a new challenge, whether it was a job interview or opening up in a close relationship, my mind would panic. Waves of anxiety would rush through me, and I would get stressed. Fear would take over my mind, entangling me in countless "what if" questions. My heart would race, my palms would sweat, and it would feel like my breath quickened.

Physically, my body was filled with the signs of fear—rapid heartbeat, dry throat, and sudden weakness in the body. These symptoms showed how fear affects both mentally and physically.

Fear wasn’t just affecting my body and mind, it was taking over every aspect of my life. Whenever a new job opportunity came up, I would shy away from interviews due to my fear. I thought I wouldn’t succeed. Even in relationships, I couldn’t openly share my thoughts because I was afraid of being misunderstood.

Gradually, fear began to stop me from progressing. I became scared to learn new things, hesitant to go to new places, and the biggest impact was that I started losing confidence. I feared lizards, I feared being alone. I feared losing myself. I feared being away from my family, and I feared losing my son. I didn’t know when this fear overtook me, but slowly, it seemed to bind my life.

Then one day, I decided to talk to my fear:

Me: "Fear, why do you dominate my life so much? Why, every time I try to do something new, do you pull me back?"

Fear: "I’m not here to stop you, but to keep you alert. My job is to tell you what could happen, but it’s up to you whether to listen and understand me or run away from me."

Me: "So, will I make the right decisions by listening to you every time? But because of you, I often freeze, like during interviews—you show me the fear of failure."

Fear: "I show you failure because I know you dislike it. But have you ever thought about how important the lessons are after failure?"

Me: "So you're saying that fear of failure can teach me something new?"

Fear: "Absolutely! As long as you run from me, I will grow stronger. But the moment you face me, you will weaken me. Every time you take a step forward, even if it’s out of fear of failure, you will move one step closer to success."

Me: "But sometimes you seem so big, like when I think about being alone or the thought of losing my son. It feels overwhelming to deal with these emotions."

Fear: "That’s natural. The fear of losing someone dear is the deepest of all. But remember, the more you fight these thoughts, the more they will trouble you. Sometimes, you need to accept that these fears are just a part of your mind. Worrying about things beyond your control can make you weaker."

Me: "So will I ever be completely free from you?"

Fear: "No, but you can make me your companion. The moment you make peace with me and understand me, I will stop blocking your path and start walking alongside you."

Me: "So I just need to accept you and keep moving forward with every step, right?"

Fear: "Yes, your strength is within you, and I am just here to help you discover it."

One day, I decided that I would confront my fear. I listed down every fear I had. Then, I asked myself—Is this fear really worth my progress? I started with small things, giving myself little challenges, and slowly, I began to overcome my fears.

I learned that fear is a natural emotion, but if we understand it and learn how to deal with it, it can't hold us back. Fear is natural, but stepping out of it is within our control.

Conclusion:

Fear is a natural feeling, but we shouldn’t let it take over our lives. When we face our fears, we break through our limitations and recognize the strength within us. So, the next time you feel afraid, accept it with a smile and know that you can move beyond it.

Don’t run from your fear—face it.